None of them force you really take time to think about that step, or let you fill out the other aspects of your profile while you ponder the all-important “username” field and come back to it once the creative juices are flowing. Check out this link about a JDate user who picked an icky name.
I confess I had no idea what “tossed salad” meant, but it turns out it meant something kinda kinky that did not convey what this gal intended.
Trying too hard to perfectly sum yourself up is a common pitfall. Generally you should avoid anything with numbers, or super descriptive words (Ski Girl Seattle is very boring, even if it’s easy to come up with—and it only conveys information we’d be able to find in other areas of her profile).
It’s also best not to just recycle whatever old school internet handle has been your Twitter username and forum login info for years—stuff we created c.
I’ve swiped, I’ve messaged, I’ve boldly gone where no right-thinking relationship-seeker has gone before (to see a vampire movie on a first date), all in the name of finding love, or at least a cool guy to hang out with.
Before we get to the findings, some caveats: these are generalities. And maybe these tips will land you more first dates, but it’s unclear whether these are the kinds of first dates you want.
DO: BE THOUGHTFUL ABOUT YOUR USERNAME People gloss over this one too often, and maybe it’s because we’re in a time when people tend to use their real names, or variations thereof, in many of their online interactions. Remember back to when picking your AIM username was a serious task?
It was your identity, your marker, and you’d better be happy with picking “DMX123” because you could be stuck with it for years.
There’s nothing unique, memorable or distinguishing. One of my favorite usernames was The Goose Whisperer, written for a client named Bobbi in 2005. So if you’re wondering how to come up with a clever name that gets attention, and attracts a like-minded person with a great sense of humor, I have an exercise that can help you come up with usernames just like the ones I mention above.
Bobbi had a farm with geese in the yard and instead of using The Horse Whisperer, which was way too overdone, we changed one word to great effect. It’s in Volume 2 of my Finding the One Online audio series, and is the cherry on top of your new online dating experience.